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Lahai-roi The Grange 42 Park Hill Moseley

I Am Nico said:
I googled Loveday Hospital, it appears on a different Birmingham History site, it says it was for difficult births. Lahai Ro was not a hospital as far as I am aware, no babies were delivered there.
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thankyou Nico. The difficult births has me questioning, as we was told my dad had jaundice as a baby. My BG was sent from Derby to Lahai Roi mother and baby home. ive left my details with Norcap and have since rang Birmingham post adoption line. thankyou once again for your help.
 
My mother worked at Oakhurst Maternity home Sutton Coldfield in the late 50s/early 60s and told me that she used to accompany mothers and babies to Loveday st if there were birth complications.
 
Justmatt66 said:
Hello,
I was another child born at 42 Park Hill Road in February 1966
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I guess I would have been there when your birth mother was as I had my son in early December 1965. Do you know your birth mother’s name? Would love to contact someone who was there the same time as me
 
Christine1946 said:
I guess I would have been there when your birth mother was as I had my son in early December 1965. Do you know your birth mother’s name? Would love to contact someone who was there the same time as m
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Hello, yes I do know my birth mother’s name, but I’m afraid she doesn’t want to know me. Such is life 1748113402648.png
 
Justmatt66 said:
That’s not a problem it’s called life
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Maybe you could try again. With an intermediary. I heard of many in the same boat as you. One of my Norcap contacts who helped me was contacted by her birth mother who wanted to wait till or if her husband passed away. Which he did but she still did not tell her other children. She blamed it on their culture. It must rake up the past. It depends how you want to take it further. My cousin by marriage was a raised in an orphanage. He found his mother by accessing his records himself in the office. She did not want to know him but she did give him some information, His father was never told about him. There are so many different stories. Know that doesn't help you. I wish you well.
 
I Am Nico said:
Maybe you could try again. With an intermediary. I heard of many in the same boat as you. One of my Norcap contacts who helped me was contacted by her birth mother who wanted to wait till or if her husband passed away. Which he did but she still did not tell her other children. She blamed it on their culture. It must rake up the past. It depends how you want to take it further. My cousin by marriage was a raised in an orphanage. He found his mother by accessing his records himself in the office. She did not want to know him but she did give him some information, His father was never told about him. There are so many different stories. Know that doesn't help you. I wish you well.
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Thank you, but I won’t be trying again, to much pain involved.
 
I don't know your circumstances obviously but....I have a friend who found out that she had a brother before her mum married her dad. She has been trying to find him - we have been trying to find him.
 
I Am Nico said:
I don't know your circumstances obviously but....I have a friend who found out that she had a brother before her mum married her dad. She has been trying to find him - we have been trying to find him.
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I don’t think it’s me, I did make contact with my birth mother and she was in my life for just over a year, but things changed in my life and I was rejected, not sure I was ever going to be fully into her life, as her other children my half sisters didn’t want to know me.
 
We know it isn't you sadly, Justmatt. That is very disappointing for you.. Maybe they will one day.They might think they are protecting their mum or they don't want their boat rocked. I find too many like you in similar situations and several within my birth family. One, only one so far told me I was new to the family and it wasn't how THEY did things. I told them I was not new to the family, they just didn't know about me. I have an in law who doesn't want
their boat rocked but their spouse my half sibling, is still in close touch with me.
I was asked to help find a birth father for an elderly cousin and they narrowed it down to one family. But they need them to take a DNA test. The person who asked my help thinks it will break a few eggshells so I am watching from the wings. I was able to supply a photo so it might ease it a bit for him to look like other people. A half brother took several years to reply to me but he did. in the end. I hope you can get some comfort eventually, they might need time.
 
Incidentally, (for things that I have never properly addressed in my own case) do any fellow babies and Mothers from the Lahai Roi recall, or recall their birth mothers mentioning a Miss Young? She would have been involved meeting the prospective birth parents and Nurse Green or any of the nurses, and the cook? And were they aware of the two way mirror system in operation. Were any of the birth mothers told they would receive/did receive a photograph of the baby when they had settled in with their new families, were they expected to provide the baby clothes their baby was given away in and do they remember any of the other birth mothers? Twenty questions I know! Send me a PM if you would rather not send a public message. I would be most grateful for any snippets remembered. I was there end of 1957 and beginning of 1958.
 
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