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i need help....

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kmt123

master brummie
Hi all i won't go into the ins and outs but can someone ask you to remove their ancesters from a tree even if these people are connected to yours?:)

kmt
 
I agree with Ann... if they are in your tree then that's where they belong, removing them doesn't change the facts of history. The other people will just have to accept that it's your tree, but can leave them out from their own tree if they wish to make one.
I have a cousin who has left out a child from our connected line that has dubious parentage and did not live more than a few hours. However I have left the child in my tree because the baby was a part of our family no matter what the history of the birth was.

Chris/Pom :angel:
 
I endorse what has been said by Pom and Ann.
Ancestry is Ancestry and noone can change it,if you go back a few generations you could be linked to thousands of branches of other trees,albeit remotely,but it is still part of your tree as well..

Pom can verify my comments when I say that in the course of researching for people there are times when people get very 'precious' about their tree even to a point of not accepting the fact that their couple got married a couple of months before the wedding.
I once had an American lady tell me that I had got the wrong couple because NONE of her ancestors would have behaved that way.
 
thanks pom and alberta, because my site is of canal boatmen i want to let everyone see has it is slowly dying away, i don't want to lose the will to carry on with my website but at the moment my interest is slowly dying :(

kmt
 
I agree with all that has been said..I had a lady not connected to my family tell me that My dad was not born in the place i said..she knew because his mothers sister had married someone in her tree:rolleyes::)
 
I also agree with what everyone has said. I too have people who I have hesitated about putting into my family tree, but whatever the feelings, they existed and it is part of our ancestry whether we like it or not. So I have put everyone in my tree, warts and all!

Judy
 
Maggie - these people are unbelievable aren't they! I also found someone who had completely the wrong information about many people on my tree. She even had my grandfather's date and place of death completely wrong and when I wrote and told her that there were errors in her tree, and my connections, she never replied to me!
 
As Alberta said, people can become 'very precious' about their tree. If we just go back to our grandparents, look how many descentants there are from them alone. So if you go back to great and great great etc, the number of descendants becomes huge. So many of us are going to have the same ancestors and similar tree. And all are perfectly entitled to put these ancestors in their trees. I love it when I match with someone. I have gained photographs of ancestors and so have they.

Kmt,

It sounds as if you are being bullied by someone with the same ancestors. Please do not give in to them by losing interest. On the programme 'Who do you think you are', they took some celebrity's tree back to when they linked in to the Royal family and beyond. Even the Royal family cannot turn round and say 'Excuse me, those of my ancestors, and mine alone.'
If you feel it has tarnished your interest and enthusiasm, I'm sure that will only last a short time. They are your ancestors full stop.

All the best Ann
 
thank you all very much for your support, i will be fine and carry on, its just when i am repeatedly getting emails with an harrassing nature it makes you think again.

thank you all very much

kmt :)
 
At the end of the day kmt, you will no doubt find that even us on the forum are all related one way or the other, especially if you go back to the 1200's and beyond. Joking apart don't get bullied by this person/persons, it's your tree and if you have the same ancestors then tough, perhaps it's jealousy, yours must be a better layout and more information. Good luck and carry on working hard at it.....can you put a link so that we can look at your tree!!!! Keep smiling :) :) :)
 
i have had enough now, this man has been asked by a few members not to put living relatives on the website, i have just had a look and found my husband and his mother and aunt back on there?

kmt :(
 
KMT you could visit the Data Protection site, where you can learn about your rights:

https://www.ico.gov.uk/Home/what_we_cover/data_protection.aspx


I have copied the relevant information for you.


You have a limited right under the Data Protection Act to tell an individual or organisation to stop processing information about you if it is causing you unwarranted and substantial damage or distress. You should make this clear and must be done in writing:
  • Who you are
  • What the processing is that you object to. This could relate to the use that is being made of the information or it could be the information itself. You may object to who the information is being released to and how it is being processed
  • Why this processing is causing you unwarranted and substantial damage or distress. Or, if the processing has not yet begun why it will be likely to do this
  • It would be advisable to send this by recorded delivery.
Exemptions




This right does not apply to any processing done
  • with your consent
  • that is necessary to carry out a contract
  • that is necessary to prepare, with your agreement, to enter a contract
  • that is necessary to carry out any legal obligation that applies to the organisation except those relating to contracts
  • that is necessary to protect your vital interests
What can you expect in response?

The organisation should reply in 21 days and explain what, if anything, they are going to do in response. They should also give their reasons if they think your demand is not justified in any way.
 
kmt123,
It appears you are concerned about your privacy, you don't need to worry, each ancestry site has a privacy protection, you must be in the same tree and have permission to be able to see living relatives.
For example:

On Ancestry you can have a public or private tree, but even on the public tree only people you have invited can access all the information.

On Genesreunited you need access to a persons tree and even then it will only tell you they are a living relative nothing more.
 
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