You are the birth mother. Norcap help anyone affected by adoption. When they were still producing their magazine when I began my search they had life experiences of successful and unsuccessful birth mothers and birth fathers. The law has recently changed so that birth mothers can now search for their children. There is the UK Birth Adoption Register which has a reasonable one off fee and they will also advise you about intermediarries who work I believe on your behalf. If Nicky Campbell & Co can find people you can. I am unsure of how the intermiadiary payment works I have a friend wanting to go down that road o find her brother she only just discovered she had. Her mum in 88 and wants to know if the baby she gave away is alright. We managed to trace the family with the information given ony to be told they are not the family. I should imagine your details are sketchy.I'm not the adoptee. Have exhausted every avenue we could over the last 20 years to find him, but to no avail..
Not just our mums Ian, all the mums. I made a friend along the way of a man who reseached for Philomena for the book he has since passed away but he helped me too.I am sorry about your train situation. I have a friend who feels the same as you do yet adopted with different circumstances. Firstly though mate, you ARE a real son it's Mr Plod who was/is not a real dad and secondly a biological child wouldn't come up to Mr Plod's expectancies either. My close relatives are similarly affected and one of the biological children was treated worse than their adoptive siblings because their father thought that his blood child should be better than them at everything.Hi Nico,
Your insights into Lahai roi are interesting, knowing how our mums might have been treated. Programmes like the Christmas 'call the midwife' do highlight things. I recently watched the film,'Philomena', and found it very moving but at the same time upsetting. So many birth Mums seem to want to find their 'lost' kids, but mine unfortunately didn't.
I've also read many experiences that adoptees have had brilliant, loving adoptive parents, and just as many from adoptees that had a bad experience, unfortunately I come into the latter category. I recently read an article in which an adoptee compared her life to sitting on a station platform with a birth train on one side and adoptive train on the other, and her ticket didn't allow her to belong on either. It rang a big bell with me. All thru my childhood years and a lot of my adult years my a/father made it clear to me that I was a waste of space not coming up to the expectations he would have had from a 'real' son, and now finding the birth train is also not the one I'm left on the platform with no feeling of belonging to birth or adoptive family, also quite lonely with no aunts, uncles, or other extended family.
Tried to send you a Private Message but it wont. I wouldn't put personal details on the punlic domain. You can maybe send me one?Don't know his new name, but he was born Kevin Ball on 5/5/55 (though I am aware that birth dates were often changed).
Pretty sure my Mum put her details on the adoption register years ago, but will check.
She's 82 now, and really just wanted to tell him what happened. She went on to marry his father and have another son with him, too..
Hello Townsend jut back from long haul however which home? Send me a PM or the others and don't put personal things on public domain. You don't want to scare people off. There will be an adoption support society in your area.NicoI am looking for information about my brother born 9 March, 1958 at the home to my mother and adopted out in June of the same year to a Quaker family in Exeter. If anyone is able to give me any information I would be very grateful. He was born Kevin Shaun Rose. I understand he may not wish to have contact with his birth family especially after such a long time but I would love to be able to at least tell him our mother would have loved him dearly and that it would have been the hardest decision she ever had to make (as for all the mothers there)
Could someone with access to the electoral rolls please clarify this and other comments about the occupation of 53 Wake Green Road, Moseley:Very mysterious. For 1922 & 1925, at least, the electoral roll shows the only person registered as (Sir) Barry Jackson of the Birmingham Rep. It is the same one, as the 1920 entry shows another address as the Rep.,